Self discipline is not something any of us can really teach you or give you guidance on. It has to come from within.
However, one thing I can report is that it is an attribute that comes easier the more you exercise it, and furthermore it comes with a great sense of self satisfaction when you use it effectively. It really activates the whole “Im a badass” portion of your brain when you stare down adversity and come out on top.
One thing that helps me is not telling myself no - instead I say “later”. I keep a note of my cravings and if it’s not something I can indulge that day, I note it in my list as a thing to have on one of my less strict days.
Usually by the time I get to that day, the craving has passed anyway.
I initially aimed to get to 48 hours. Every time I craved something, I told myself I’d eat it at the end of the 48 hours. By the time I got to the 48 hour mark, most of the cravings had passed. I ate a small meal and started again (rolling fasts) Eventually I realised the meals I’d been fantasising about during the fasted periods weren’t anywhere near as good as I’d imagined them. One day I got to 48 hours and thought “you know what? I’ll just eat tomorrow” and then I was doing 72 hour fasts at a minimum.
Now I’m fasting for 3-4 days or more at a time and have no interest in eating at all. Currently on day 4 of a fast and thinking I’ll go til next week.
Apart from environment and keeping yourself busy try to think about something really good or really bad related to fasting.For example I used to feel temptation at first but then I imagined myself after losing weight and felt a rush of motivation, that’s what you can do.
Well fasting has two ccomponents.
Physical and mental
Mostly we go to mental and think we have no will power.
If you handle the physical 1st the mental will be easier.
Physical: fat fast on a very narrow range of fatty foods until you can’t stand it and would rshmther fast.
Fat Fasting includes eating only meals no snacking.
Bacon Eggs avocado Sardines olives greens light stir-fried on health oil.
Eat as much as you want for as many days as it takes but eat only at meal times. 😋 the physical cravings will disappear and you will be like omg I can’t eat this any more. You are ready to fast.
Technically this gets you into fat adaption quicker but I only care about results.
Stop fighting your body and blaming it on your mind.
Fat fast and then if you eat you you know you have to fix some mental issues.
Hahaha bro I have had those exact thoughts in the past, get an air bnb with no food, but it won’t help, you’re not in the proper headspace currently to be able to pull off a 10 day fast, with or without the air bnb (you’ll end up eating or ordering food anyway), you need to as of now focus on a calorie deficit as you build up your mental stamina to have the discipline to take on a 10 day fast, probably not the answer you were looking to hear, but I’ve been there
I think environment is a large part of the battle. This goes for long-term maintenance as well. Remove temptations. Make it so that breaking your goals requires you to put out effort. If you cannot get away from food entire… clean out those foods that are most tempting. I find fasting easier if there’s no ice cream, chocolate, etc, in the house.
Self-discipline is a continuous process, the fact you’ve managed to do 3 days already indicates you have the ability, now it’s a matter of consistency. At 23 staying consistent can also be pretty difficult, and the AirBNB idea may help but you’d still be going back to the same environment eventually, which indicates you’re going to need to learn to work with those cravings and temptations there. I highly recommend reading up on Prochaska’s and Diclemente’s Transtheoretical Model of the stages of change, it was originally made to mostly treat addiction/end bad behaviors but can be applied to other areas of life.
Wishing you the best!
My advice for you is to change your eating habits if they’re trash. At your age if you eat healthy balanced diet and go out to play some sports you will loose that 10kg easily. Why torture yourself with not eating for 10 days if you can enjoy delicious balanced meals and have fun doing activities?
You did three days be proud of your accomplishment! Celebrate the victory and move on. It’s only a speed bump not the end of the road. Stay on the path and don’t forget everything improves with practice.
this is my logic during those times
i can eat during this fast all i want, but nobody’s suffering but me. im the only one that wont get the results i want if i choose not to stick to it. and i remind myself that im tired of not making progress.