Great job on loosing 15lbs in the beginning of the year! That is a lot of weight 🙌 since you were actually loosing weight, it is a good sign.
I also believe that excess food intake is a coping mechanism. For me it has to do a lot about personal boundaries, letting other people take control over me and me not being able to say no. You do admit you had an abusive marriage and in-laws. Is that still the case?
Try printing out feelings/emotions list from online search, and start writing down all feelings you have for all the family members (but not your kids). Notice how you express your feelings. Pay close attention to your parents, i would say food comfort starts there. You may have not noticed it pre-marriage, but marriage and kids tend to be a catalyst of all our values. I quit alcohol using this approach few years back. Now i am doing IF (16:8, and quit sugar), and it is a piece of “cake”. I know my boundaries, i am more confident, and it is easy to say no to food and actually be more engaged with kids and husband. Knowing what emotions come up helps me express them in healthy ways, rather than turn to food.