I live with my 79 year old mother who was a housewife and always cooked for 10 for the 4 of us. “There had to be food in case someone stops by”. The only thing she can do for me now is cook high calorie sugar and fat laden food. As much as it kills me I throw or give it away when she is not present. A wate of food but necessary for her, and my sanity. Good luck.
I give you permission to throw away old food, if that is the priority for your health and mental well-being.
I give you permission to realise that you can be grateful for the gift, the thought and the generosity, and the resources that went into the gift, and still throw it away after receiving it.
My SIL gets me cake + ice cream + chocolates + other sweets bc she wants me to stay obese. I take pastry to my room and put in the toilet or trash. She never gets me salad or veggies or nuts despite requesting. I’m going to wear all the dresses I want. I’m thin and healthy n happy.
You chose to eat six old pastries when no one would know what you chose to do with them. This has nothing to do with your mother and everything to do with how you ‘heal’ your hurts. You can’t out-fast a shitty diet, and until you discover and deal with the root issue, things will always be up and down.
You can freeze pastries! I think it’s sweet of her. You’re not gonna be on your death bed one day thinking “god I wish I didn’t eat those pastries”. But you may remember all the small kind gestures from your mother. no need to complicate the good things in life ❤️