there’s a delightful video on youtube by ‘what i’ve learned’ that you could show her.
remind her as well that her current ideas about health are probably molded by outdated teachings that she learnt as a child.
people won’t easily change their mind about it, they’re just too ignorant. they want to proven right.currently on day 4 of a water fast, trying to do 7 day, and i’m keeping it from my family because they don’t understand either and i cbf even trying to educate them
I want to add an additional comment to stress that this is probably making her very self conscious. I think addressing that problem is the key to tranquility in your relationship. Approach it head on, rationally, and gently. Your weight loss might be making her feel fat or stupid.
My BF was really pissed when I started IF. It made him feel self conscious, he was upset I stopped cooking dinner for him, and would get upset eating alone. At one point he called it a “starvation diet!” It took less than a year for him to come around, eventually fasting himself.
I showed him videos and articles about fasting, showed him what 1200 calories a day looked like, I kept cooking for him and tried to keep meal times normal.
Overall I was firm about boundaries, letting him know he could keep his opinions about my diet to himself, because it was my body and he’s only going to make himself miserable.
My gf called me many things when I first started fasting. Now that I lost 25 pounds in 25 days, and got rid of many of my chronic diseases, and looks better than ever, she started to follow what I do.
She is not fasting just yet, but she started IF, and cut out a lot of carbs from her diet. She lost 12 pounds and is able to maintain her weight.
My boyfriend would absolutely flip his shit if I told him about my fast and it’s not because he is a jackass, he would just be super worried and concerned about my health. To someone that has never skipped food for a single day in their life, fasting for days (or weeks, in my case) sounds crazy and dangerous - and even if you know what you are doing, it kind of is? Sure, there are benefits but there is so much to keep in mind and be careful about (electrolyte imbalance, refeeding syndrome etc) that I would probably be worried about a loved one going on an extended fast even if I knew they know their stuff.
Try to talk to her about your motives and plans (how long are you going to fast? what are you doing to stay safe and keep an eye on your health?) and maybe share the resources with her that convinced you to go on a fast in the first place.
Shes ignorant. Fasting is healthy and beneficial for our health. Its like a restart to our system, and especially if youve had a food addiction and were a pure glutton, fasting can help one get over that. Please… There’s nothing you can do to convince her its good for you othrr then tell her to do some research.
Id say to her, if you care for me, you’ll support me in this. Because on a long extended fast you need to seperate yourself from temptation and negativity like that. Fasting is supposed to be peaceful.
Especially if she plans to get you your favorite food because “she believes” you need to eat. Its not going to help you to keep to a 3 week fast. Its hard, and takes alot of mental, emotional, and physical strength. Its not easy.