Starting again at my worst, needing advice!

Hey everyone! New to this sub, but I started fasting about 14 years ago. Was able to do it regularly for many years but since the pandemic hit and I moved to the states for some reason it’s been really really hard. I’m 34 now and my 35th birthday is in April. It also doesn’t help that I’m engaged and my fiancée loves me “no matter my shape” and he eats whatever he wants and because he’s always been an athlete he has a six pack while eating McDonald’s and pizzas every day. When I was alone, as I’m sure happens to many others, I had basically zero food at home so fasting was easier. Now I have terrible processed foods everywhere and even though my partner is super supportive, I can’t ask him to stop everything because of my inability for self control. Before the pandemic started I was at my goal weight (115 lbs/53 kg) and even though I put on 15 lbs during 2020 I was able to bring it down etcs. In the past 6 months, I don’t know how, but I’m up to 150 lbs. This is the biggest I’ve ever been (I’m 5’4’’) in my life. nothing in my entire closet fits me. Only a pair of joggers I bought on Amazon. I feel really defeated and my body feels sick. My bones have never had to support this amount of weight so I feel it even when I’m walking. I used to belong to a forum called fitness through fasting and they were amazing during my early days at fasting so I figured that since I haven’t been able to do it for a couple of years I would try to find accountability buddies that understand what I’m going through. I started the fast 2 hours ago after breakfast. I’m hoping to be able to do at least 4 days, and even though I know the first couple of days are the hardest, I might try to do more days if I can. I’ve listened and read dr fungs books I’m also wondering if there’s anything new out there regarding what electrolytes or diff salts to drink to keep the body in a wholesome state. Thank you for reading me and I look forward to hearing stories and recommendations

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I think you should talk to him about your new fasting journey and what you want to achieve. He’s a supportive guy so I’m sure he won’t try to derail any of your progress. It would help if you looked at the different types of fasting in terms of how long you’re going to fast before your next meal and the limited eating window to do so. Or you could do OMAD which is one meal a day. Choose breakfast time, lunch, or dinner to have a nice size meal until the same time period the next day! You got this 😛

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I just finished a 4.75 day fast, even though I wanted to do 7, I can’t fast when I don’t feel well. Don’t beat yourself up and keep trying. For me I find it easiest to start fasting if I am already in ketosis so for a few days before my fast I eat low to no carbs. Then the transition to fasting is easier.

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Let me start by saying that yes, you can ask a lot from your boyfriend. That’s what partners are there for; to support us on the things that are important to us. I assume that he spends a lot of time with you so this is the price of admission for your time. Being that is not a big ask he should be happy to pitch in.

Don’t be in a hurry to lose the weight; it came up slow and it will go down slow. IF fast would be better as you could use the eating windows to work on your relationship with food so it support your life goals. Yesterday I was on the last day of my 4 day fast and somebody brought a box of Krispy Kreme doughnuts in. Obviously I’m not going to shove down the drain 3 1/2 days of fasting over a doughnut, that was easy. But when you alternate fasting and eating you find it easier to say no to the same doughnut even when you are not fasting.

Clean your act by getting rid of snacking and liquid calories, only having 3 meals a day and nothing between meals. That right there is a 12-hour fast. You would be amazed at what tiny percent of the population even do that. Once you clean your snacking which starts working on your bad habits, skipping breakfast is not hard.